*We are switching things up as we go forward and will be switching off on the same intention. This week we are focusing a second week on judgment, here's Kyle's take:
It is a constant battle for the both of us to practice non-judgement- we often jump to conclusions. It is our nature to judge as a reflexive reaction, a safety measure to help us quickly assess a situation as harmful or benign.
But in the relative safety of our times, is it necessary to cling to our initial reactions? When we stop and think, our judgmental brains shifts, and this is where we begin to understand one another. In the pause, we experience empathy. We see others as the mirrors of ourselves. When we slow judgement, we slow down our fears. Fear is based upon the shadowy possibilities that lie amongst us, the what-if's. Compassion and empathy lie rather with what is than what if.
In theory, non-judgment seems easy. We label it as just a thing, a trifle. But when we begin to notice our actions, we reveal our habits. When we have judged over and over and live in this judgmental culture it becomes part of our nature to become the judge. So this is a battle for us all, I think even for the most enlightened of people it can be a struggle. There is a constant practice of reminding yourself that we are all one, we are all from the same matter, we are all the same. Doing this turns off your judgmental brain and allows you to look inward, to look at your problems as a human, and shows you what you need to fix. In a way it is a defense mechanism to judge, we do so in order to flee our problems and to feel better about who we truly are, our true self. This week look inward instead of outward. Look at your problems and what you can do to fix them. Judge yourself. This week when you look at someone and feel distain, disgust, or any ill will catch yourself and think of non-judgement. Build a habit for a healthier life and remember it doesn't happen overnight, it will take time. Keep practicing.
Kyle & Sara