"The goal of Yoga is not to obtain something that is lacking: it is the realization of an already present reality. Yoga practice removes the obstacles that obstruct the experience of samadhi, or the state of complete absorption."
- The Yoga Sutras, Patanjali (Sutra 2.2)
All our lives we are driven towards the need for external pleasures and approval. We are made to believe and enforce in ourselves and others this constant lacking sensation, a hollowness that must be filled by praise or product. In the present state of the modern Western society, it is impossible to not encounter this sensation. It goes beyond the advertisement campaigns that ingrain a sense of worthlessness in women's bodies, it goes beyond money as a status symbol- it is engrained into every aspect of our day, from looking ourselves in the mirror to receiving feedback at work or at school. It's casual conversations from friends, disapproving gazes from strangers, it's traffic and dinner and our lovers. There's this belief that we cannot be enough on our own at this moment and it destroys us. We live a life spiritual begging, yearning to be held once again like children sheltered from all bad. It puts us in a defensive state where we cradle our ego in order to save ourselves.
It doesn't have to be like that, we don't have to live in a seesaw between ecstasy and sorrow, we don't have to wait for the next compliment or instagram like or sign of almighty approval. Instead we can, right now, practice radical self-love. How do we do that? By not being such a dick to yourself every time you make a mistake. By not waiting for someone else to affirm your value. By having loving patience with your own eccentricities. And trust that these little actions of patience and genuine affection for yourself do have a large effect on those around you. Kindness starts from within and echoes outwards. It takes constant vigilance that you and me and her and him and them and us, we are all spiritual beings. When you realize love for yourself, love for others comes naturally. Since we aren't waiting for approval, others realize they don't have to ask for it in order to validate themselves. Self Love is Self Empowerment and Empowerment is Change.
Love on you lovers,
Sara & Kyle